No Woman Deserves an Abusive RelationshipFirst Steps to Attracting the Life You Deserve.You may find it unusual to come across a page about abusive relationship issues on a women’s law of attraction solutions website. You’re right. 
I have been in the helping field long enough (over 30 years) to know that no sudden blast of law of attraction or positive thinking will magically get an abused woman out of danger and a life of secret desperation. Are you an Abused Woman or Teen Girl? On this page, you will find some standard information to hopefully trigger some healthy thinking, and get you started on the road OUT of this nightmare. Yes, as you begin your escape from this situation, you should absolutely begin practicing new healthy positive thought and language habits, and take action in alignment with that. Do not just sit around magically thinking and visualizing a liberation of some sort will happen “to” you. In all probability, You will need to make it happen. The strategies of law of attraction are effective as a life long practice. These are: making good Decisions + applying your Energy, attention and focus to those decisions, while generating a Knowing feeling that you will succeed. However, realistically, when a woman is in fear of her life, the next beating, rape or emotional abuse, it is very difficult to go within and quiet the mind, to focus. Your focus needs to be Safety. If you are in an Abusive Relationship, do you have a Safety Plan? The following is an excellent easy to use Safety Plan you could print off and start working on: Click Here for this one from the London Abused Women’s Shelter. How do I know if I am in an Abusive Relationship? The following list of abusive relationship warning signs show that, should these be “your reality” – or even some of them - you may be a victim. Abuse of women can be physical, emotional, dating violence, sexual harassment and more. It does not come out of nowhere. Here are some warning signs showing there is a potential for violence: He does not care about your thoughts and feelings. He does not accept a breakup, or threatens to harm you or himself if you break up with him. He attempts to isolate you from your friends and family. He is controlling, and may insist that you check in or ask permission from him to do things. He does not want you to “hang out” with anybody else. He is emotionally abusive: put downs, name calling, telling you “You are nothing without me!!” He threatens to hurt you. Hitting, punching, kicking, shoving has begun. He is very jealous. He gets angry when you talk to other people. He stalks you after you tried to break up with him. He is possessive and treats you like a “thing”, a belonging, and does not want you sharing your time with others. He tries to control what you do, how you act and even what you wear. You are afraid of him. You worry about his reactions to things you say or do. He behaves violently, and may own weapons and threaten to use them. He has a history of fighting. He loses his temper quickly. He has hurt animals or/and other people. He makes all the decisions. He abuses alcohol or drugs, and may even pressure you to take them. He may pressure you to have sex with others for money, which he takes. It is Never your fault. A woman in an abusive relationship may feel confused. She may be afraid, angry and feel trapped. She may blame herself. No matter what others say, you are Not, Never, responsible for a partner's abusive actions. Alcohol, drugs, his “problems’, stress, anger issues, childhood traumas, or provocation are not the cause. He Is Choosing to Abuse You. The healthy thinking solution is to get help, tell someone you trust: your parents, a friend, counselor, clergy member, etc. Remember that you are not alone and that the abuse is not your fault. Help is available. In your area, look for women's organizations such as, in the US, The National Domestic Violence Hotline. Phone 800-799-7233 (or for the hearing impaired 800-787-3224, the TDD line).
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