Stop Attracting Negative People

Step 1. So first, forgive yourself. Now. For goodness sakes, you can’t help it if you did not know how you have been a magnet for negative people until now. Yes, these relationships may have dragged you down, and even sucked the life right out of you. But you do not have to dwell on the choices you made in the past. The past is gone. Forgive yourself, and move on, while you learn more effective skills, and feel the freedom that comes with The End of attracting negative people.

Step 2. If you understand the basics of healthy positive thinking, the core element of law of attraction, you will feel the truth of this: to stop attracting negative people, you must begin giving out significantly more positive vibes, or messages, verbal and non-verbal. How? At the very minimum, begin to integrate the following habits into your day to day life:

1. Whenever your friend, new acquaintance or family member goes off on a negative tangent, turn it around and protect your very self with inner dialogue such as Hmmm, interesting, I’ll feel better when this conversation is over. I think I’ll change the subject with ?? This is where you pre-plan your favourite Conversation Flippers and pull them out just when the negative person least expects it. For example:

John says to you, Do you have a minute? I am really pi__ed at Brigitte! Man, every time I see her, she cuts me off, or makes me feel like I am beneath her. Do you know what I mean? …. Blah Blah Blah… You are frequently accosted by John, who has been using you as a sounding board for all his negative issues.

Conversation Flipper. You say, Actually, no, John. Sorry, I am needed in Cathy’s office right now. or

You know, John I suggest you do some healthy reading, and then maybe we could have coffee and discuss the positive ideas you find there. I would suggest XYZ by whatever author. And, hey, I gotta go. See you tomorrow.

What if it is your Mother? Yikes! This is a tough one. When it is a loved elder, I suggest a short face to face conversation to let her or him know that you are focused on staying positive as much as you can, and that one of your goals this year is to stop attracting negative people. Let them know that you are there for them when they need your help, such as with illness and real needs, and of course for family activities and visits. However, you can gently begin to turn the conversation around, or put the brakes on it, from then on. They have been warned. You will over time, feel less and less uncomfortable about this new you, and may find that they begin to make conversational changes of their own. Or not. Either way, the most important thing in mental health, and law of attraction strategy is to seek out healthy positive feelings in interactions wherever possible.

Caveat: In the course of our work and interactions with loved ones, the negative conversation of those truly in need is not to be confused with general negative conversation and people you are trying to avoid.

Attracting negative people is happening partly because we are giving off messages that we will let them in. Scary and true. Avoid these types of behaviors on line and on dates:

1. Enabling or encouraging disrespectful dialogue about other women. If you let him bash other women, he will bash you as well.

2. Engaging in conversation that simply feels wrong. It is negative. If it is degrading, depressing or frightening, and you allow it, you are telling the man that he can come in to your space and unload his negative messaging in your world.

Do you see how important our behavior is here? Attracting negative people will slow down significantly as soon as you begin to use assertive, healthy language that says:

I am worthy of good, positive, healthy relationships. It is what I seek, and I am in the process of attracting more of these every day. It feels great!

I suggest you copy out this A-Statement and memorize it. Let me know how it goes ! Want more info about Positive Singles? Learn more here..



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