Broken Heart? The Pain Will Pass.Does that statement sound at all like how your broken heart actually feels? Have you been reading the best self help books and still feel worried that this heartbreak is affecting you too much? Do you feeling like you should get over it more easily? You are not alone. You are normal. 
And yes, though this may be hard to believe right now, you will heal this emotional injury.Use the basic healthy thinking concepts, including law of attraction skills and begin to move forward: Whether you have been dumped, are the rejected one, or even have been left behind by a long time friend, a broken meaningful relationship has the same effects. These can include frequent bouts of crying, anger, hopelessness and even physical symptoms such as headaches and chest pain. NOTE: Always seek the assistance of a qualified professional such as a nurse, social worker, psychologist or physician if you are feeling ill, depressed and especially if you are having suicidal thoughts. Five Top Helpful Tips for the Broken Heart 1. Accept Two Facts: The breakup is real, and so is the broken heart. It is real loss. Ten weeks? Six months? 3 years? A lifetime? How long the relationship lasted is irrelevant. Though the depth may vary, the fact that you will grieve remains the same. 2. Yes it is really, really hard. However, apply your focus to the present, this time, these moments. Acknowledge your feelings, but tell yourself repeatedly that the painful ones will ease, and eventually fade. 3. You may truly believe at this time that you will never find love again. Wrong. Your ability to love and be loved again remains. Seek out the stories of others who have lived it. There are millions. 4. Apply your Energy, Attention and Focus not to what you do not want, which is never having love again, but instead to what you do want, which is surviving, thriving and eventually finding true and lasting love. 5. Accept Your Recurring Thoughts of Him. Are you supposed to absolutely stop thinking about your lost love, the other person, and if so, how?! Trying to force that may even keep the fires burning, something you want to avoid. Take a look at Harvard University psychology professor Dr. D. Wegner’s findings in a report to the American Psychological Association: Seventy young women and men were studied. What emerged was that by suppressing painful thoughts about your dear lost loved one, you actually prevent yourself from accepting the fact that he is truly gone. When the thought comes back to your mind, your body reacts to the stress, or distress the same as the first time! All the pain returns. Can't get your ex off your mind? Dr. Wegner suggests to give in to it for now. Instead, while you go through this grieving process, to emerge healthy on the other side, here are some suggestions which will help you, and even help someone less fortunate: Help others. Volunteer at your local hospital, nursing home, soup kitchen, sexual assault crisis center, Help for Haiti aid agency, or any other women’s group in your area. The need is great. This will help others and replace painful thoughts in your mind with ones which feel good. Remember – this Knowing element is a the heart of law of attraction and other positive change strategies. Pamper yourself. Take a weekend and get away on a mini vacation. Get a massage, join a Yoga or dance class, or take a spa day with a friend. Learn a new skill, start a hobby or re-visit talents you have left behind, such as singing or painting. Adopt a pet, or dog-sit for a friend for a few days. The attention, warm feelings, exercise and fun you get will boost your mood. Make a list of what you learned while in the relationship and what you plan to avoid next time. This is only a ‘tip of the iceberg’ article to help get you started. Visit your local bookstore for a wide selection of the best self help books written by health care, psychology or social work professionals, addressing the issue of a broken heart. Remember Every single woman who has ever had a broken heart thought at one point or another, that she would not get over it. And then, she did.
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