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Dating Advice for Positive Singles
Apply healthy dating advice to find your soulmate. I did. Tips for positive singles are everywhere, and much of this info is suspect. This page is built from real womens' relationship successes and questions. The help provided is law of attraction synced. It is dating advice from someone who has been there, who cares, and who can help women like you... especially if you think there is something you may be doing wrong in your search for true love.
The foundation for the advice here is modern positive psychology, the law of attraction and healthy positive thinking. You have the opportunity to send me your questions as well, in Ann Landers style. I will not be giving you advice just because it is what you want to hear. You might not always like what the answer is, but it will be real. And only by following dating advice for the real world, can we make healthy choices. I can not guarantee you will walk down the isle this month, but...
Mr. Right is out there. And you will meet him, or her, should that be your orientation.
First, some basics.
#1. Stop beating yourself up. Start back at the beginning and seriously look at how you are thinking about dating. You are doing the best you can with what you know at the time. Every date that has gone wrong for you has a message within that experience for you. Exercise:Spend some time thinking about at least one positive aspect of each date you have had. Even if it just, Thank the Goddess I'm not with him!. Write these down.
#2. Remember the basic core of law of attraction? It goes something like this:
The key to attracting what you want, or something better, is that whatever you repeatedly think about, with simultaneous good feelings, will eventually come to you, or something like it.
No, there is no genie ready to bring you exactly what you are visualizing... The key to this basic natural law is in the simultaneous good feelings part. To do this, you need to apply the 2-Step Strategy,
Decide + Energize while Knowing.
THAT is how the good feelings take hold and stay.
We need to apply the 2-Step strategy to situations on an ongoing basis to get less of what we don't want , and much more of what we do want. If the dating advice you have been following so far is not doing that for you, then you are not following the basics of law of attraction. I know. I've done it. So have countless clients and friends of mine, and we/they are all now in great relationships.
Dating Advice Principle Number One
1. What is the most important thing I should do make a good impression on a first date?
THE Number One thing you should do, before the makeup, the hair, the outfit, is Think. Stop. Spend 10 to 30 minutes in quiet relaxed contemplation. During this time, in your mind, you need to DO the following:
Decide what you want out of this date. Not, I want this to be the guy I will marry. Not, I want this man to fall in love with me and for us to start a relationship from this night on.NO. Decide on Wants along the lines of: I will enjoy this date, learn at least 10 things about him, good aspects he has and so-so ones. I will share what is comfortable to share about myself, what is safe to share, and what Makes Me Feel Good to share. And only that.
Or
I will enjoy the activity of the date - the movie, the walk, the races, whatever... I will feel Relaxed, and Free during the date. Not: I hope I am following the dating advice and doing everything right.
Or
I see myself in lively enjoyable two way conversation with him, and ending the date Feeling Good about the time we spent together.
Notice a theme here? Your Decision , your first step in applying the law of attraction to your own dating advice or philosophy, is that You Must Ensure that YOU Feel Good On the Date. Period.
Form there, after the date, spend some time evaluating how you think it went. If you understand how the mind works, positive thinking, positive psychology, law of attraction - call it whatever you like... then you know that the more you do things that feel good to you, the more of That you Attract.
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